Elder Care in Monticello FL
Whether it comes from family members who think you’re not doing enough for your elderly loved one or strangers who don’t know you, criticism about your caregiving can be hurtful. It can even make you angry, especially if it comes from family members who aren’t exactly pulling their weight when it comes to caring for your loved one. Here are some tips for handling the criticism.
Detach and Refuse to Take it Personally
Often criticism comes from ignorance. Other family members who don’t really know what is going on with your elderly loved one’s health or situation may have all kinds of ideas about what should be done. This kind of “armchair quarterbacking” is well-meaning, but severely uninformed. It’s also difficult to see this as anything less than a personal attack. Try to look at the criticism as if it were directed at someone else and don’t take it personally. Invite the person offering the criticism the chance to become more involved in your loved one’s care. It’s highly likely that this person will quickly see the error of their ways.
You Can’t Make Everybody Happy
No matter what decisions you make as your loved one’s family caregiver, someone isn’t going to like the decision. It’s not possible to make everyone involved happy, and trying to do so just makes life more difficult for you and for your elderly loved one. No matter what you’re doing or what decisions you’re making, someone will disagree. Letting go of the belief that you can make even a few people happy can help immensely.
You Don’t Have to Take Abuse
If your other family members, or your elderly loved one, are abusive when they share criticism with you, you don’t have to put up with that happily. Let them know that you’re happy to talk about what they would like to change about your elderly loved one’s care, but that it needs to be done in a manner that is respectful to everyone involved. Responding with anger or yelling just exacerbates the situation. Hold family meetings if your other family members want to share their opinions in a calm atmosphere.
Take Care of Yourself
Above all, make sure that you take care of yourself. When you’re run down and feeling overly stressed, you’re far more likely to respond to criticism negatively. Whenever possible, take advantage of help that you can get from other family members and from elder care providers. The upside to having other family members help when you need time away is that they’re far less likely to be critical of what you need to do.
When you’re facing lots of criticism, try to keep a smile on and remember that the person offering the criticism is likely coming from a place of love.
If you or an aging loved one are considering elder care in Monticello, FL, please call the caring staff at Hopewell In-Home Senior Care today at 850-386-5552. Providing Senior Care Services in North Florida.
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